Portland, maine

A recapture of our time together exploring Portland, Maine.

September 30th – Western Promenade

Happy 20th, Cantara!

We left for RDU airport around 6:15AM, connected in LaGuardia at 11:00AM and landed in Portland, Maine just before 1:00PM.

Once settled at the hotel, a nap was in order. We woke with a mean appetite and had our eyes set on Vietnamese cuisine. She ordered pho, and I, a vermicelli noodle bowl (we both tried something new).

As the sun began to set, we headed towards the Western Promenade (it was the only thing we had planned for a short day). The walk was no more than 15 minutes from the hotel and once we got closer, I noticed a couple of (presumably) unhoused people and carts filled with belongings.
I gave pause because I wasn’t sure what to expect from the park (it never hurts to be extra cautious while exploring). Despite a moment of hesitation, we continued onward, up the winding pathway. Little did we know, there was a gift waiting to greet us during our ascension.

The sunset.

It was absolutely beautiful. What’s more, students, families, couples, and solos were enjoying the park watching the same sky show. Seeing people unplugged and enjoying one another is always refreshing… Some were exercising, canoodling, petting their loyal pup and laying out on a blanket. Oh, how I wish I had something like this near my residence!

This is the first sunset my sister and I shared together – the first sunrise was in Kenya. 🙂

We continued along the walkway, took notice of the homes in the area and began pondering their estimated value. We ooo’d and ahhh’d along Carroll Street, criticised some homes and praised the features of others. Each one had character and none looked the same.

October 1st – Old Port and Downtown

Breakfast in our pajamas was how we started our day (which is the right way, in case you were wondering ;). With bellies full, we began our journey to the Victoria Mansion. Now… Had I learned more history behind the original owner, I likely would have been less interested. Our tour guide was okay… she rubbed me the wrong way a couple times, especially when she called the forced labor of the enslaved people “help”. Help is voluntary. I asked a fair share of questions (along with others) throughout the tour. In the last room we visited, I asked her about a “darling egg” and she explained it. Before leaving the room, she asked if the group had any questions and no one said anything. She then turned to me and asked me if I had any to which I responded no… She then said she was surprised which confused me because I already asked my question. But her tone was more taunting than amusing. Someone else chimed in on my behalf, thankfully. I’d give the tour guide a genrous 2.8 out of 5 stars.

Overall, the mansion was one of kind but not the kind I’d fancy (because, I’m obviously in the market). The rooms were ornate and exploding with trims, paintings gold accents and woodwork. My favorite was the Turkish room because of its intimate size and warm colors.

The gift shop had all kinds of fun trinkets and souvenirs . Once we left, we continued on to Downtown and Old Port area looking for the best sweatshirts. Naturally, many books, knickknacks and clothing items caught our attention. I tend to take pictures of books and later check to see if my library has them on the Libby or Hoopla apps. Unfortunately, I suffered greatly from decision fatigue but not Cantara; she found a cute blue sweatshirt and I didn’t get mine until just before the end of the trip.

Our appetites returned to us with a vengeance while we were near the highly popular Duck Fat restaurant. As soon as we received a text our table was ready, we swiftly made our way
inside and took our seats. The sandwiches were tasty but the FRIES were out of this world. “These are the best fries I ever had” – Cantara. And I agree. Was it the duck fat that instilled the rich flavor or a combination of meticulously measured spices? We’ll never know. Here’s what’s known: this restaurant has raised our standard for fries.


With our palates satisfied, we walked along the port and popped into a couple of galleries. One artist in particular made such vibrant paintings which juxtaposed the atrocities experienced and witnessed in his childhood. I asked the shopkeeper (who is also one of the artists with work on display) about the painter. My heart smiled to hear he’s one of the most cheerful people she’s ever met.

A few artists pulled my attention but his story and works changed my brain chemistry for the better.

October 2nd – Eastern Promenade / East Bayside

First thing in the morning was our 9 o’clock appointment for permanent bracelets at LadyFine Jewelry. Opening the solid door on the side of a windowless building felt… a little taboo – glad there was a sign! We took our time deciding which style we wanted to commit to for the rest of our lives. The one I really wanted was $200 steeper than I originally planned. The design I opted for was simple and complemented my other bracelet. Cantara chose a bracelet that reflected any present light – I think it was called sunburst? Naturally, it was eye-catching.

I’ve visited two other permanent jewelry shops and the technician always put a barrier (usually leather) between the bracelet and the skin because a spark is used to weld it. That wasn’t done at this location which was disappointing. I let Cantara know she should expect more safety precautions if she decides to go again elsewhere. Besides that, it was a good experience overall and the owner was patient with us and also had reasonable prices.

With the morning activity crossed out, we set out for a light bite from a nearby recommended coffee shop. Hot beverages and unusual pastries in hand, we sat in the sun at our leisure until it was time to explore more of East Bayside. The street art was a pleasant surprise! I recall reading a post where the author advised against exploring East Bayside but it was missed on me as to why.


Our route this day took us from East Bayside to Bayside to Downtown to East End back to West End. We brunched at Ocotillo before returning to Downtown for the sunset lighthouse tour by Windjammer. IT WAS COLD OUT ON THE WATER and the views were quite nice. We were able to bring beverages and food on board, too. At one moment, while near the Great Diamond Island, we noticed a funky occurrence in the sky: there seemed to be two vertical small rainbows – each on the side of the sun. For dinner, Gilbert’s Chowder House was our pick and this place was packed! We came at a great time because there was a table for two available with our names on it.

October 3rd – Fort Williams Park

This morning was a slow start with leftovers for brekkie. As we approached the Portland Art Museum, there was a crowd of women on the corner promoting peace while playing upbeat music. A little while later, on the same corner, was a man holding a sign expressing ridicule of the current US president. We spent a couple at the museum – naturally, there were a few surprises sprinkled throughout if you looked close enough.


With it being our last day, we saved the iconic lighthouse as the cherry on top. I made every effort to have us dropped off away from the lighthouse but, nope! Our Lyft driver dropped us off right. at. the. lighthouse. Now, if you know a thing or two about large buildings and monuments, you can’t really see it if you’re standing right in front. Nevertheless, I’m sure he meant well. We took in various views of the lighthouse and waves crashing along the rocks. Shortly after, we moseyed along a trail until it led us back to where we started.

Though the park is called “Fort Williams” it didn’t resonate with me that it was created to defend the harbor until I read the plaques about the area (specifically Battery Blair). At the battery, there were two guns built within concrete with the ability to retract and hide from the enemy’s line of sight.

The Goddard Mansion was in the area but we didn’t get a chance to check it out. Here’s a list of a few more things I’d definitely add to my list if I were to return to Portland, Maine:

A few things we missed:

  • Holy Donut
  • Oysters
  • Sunset on the rooftop at Luna Bar
  • Portland Observatory
  • Goddard Mansion

How to harden your beloved

  • Unload your worst thoughts about them and call it transparency
  • Withhold affection
  • Ignore them
  • Undermine their intelligence
  • Take their depth for granted
  • Stop getting to know them – you know enough already
  • Criticize their playfulness
  • Over explain the most simple thoughts
  • Refuse mental contribution
  • Rest in the bare minimum
  • Know nothing of selflessness
  • Change the meaning of previous statements often
  • Admit to being selfish without change
  • Imagine the worst of your beloved
  • Assume things of your beloved without seeking their input
  • Avoid tough conversations
  • Unapologetically cross their boundaries
  • Reap and deplete without sowing a seed
  • Ignore huge parts of what makes them who they are

Signs and symptoms may include:

  • Decreased vulnerability
  • Lack of closeness
  • Perceived indifference from you
  • Overthinking
  • Internal spiraling
  • Pessimistic view towards the relationship
  • Withholding feelings
  • Bracing for the end
  • Missing their partner, even though they’re physically present
  • Mental and emotional exhaustion
  • Shorter or silent phone calls
  • Surface level conversations
  • Anticipating the worst
  • Unusually seeking affirmation due to waned confidence
  • Doubt

If you notice these in yourself or your loved one, the security, trust and joy of being together has reached its sunset. The emotional damage may be irreparable between the two. However, if you’ve made vows or if you’ve witnessed a glimpse of hope, you may consider the following…

How to soften your beloved:

  • Take notice of the small things they do for you
  • Learn and practice their ways of love
  • Pay attention and be fluent in their body language
  • Consider and respect their autonomy
  • Be gently honest – always
  • Consider the impact of your actions/words on them
  • Strive to become their peace again
  • Plan an intricate surprise
  • Express gratitude for their presence in your life
  • Be so self-aware that callouts won’t feel like an attack; know yourself
  • Know that you and your beloved were created in the image of God
  • Remind yourself, the world is broken and there will always be pain in this lifetime
  • Realize that you’re deeply flawed and are in need of a savior in order to dwell with the Creator
  • Accept Jesus as Lord of your heart and mind; the Savior of your soul who laid His life down to restore humanity back to God.
  • Let your walk with Him transform your heart and renew your mind
  • Share your faith and the impact it’s had on who you are with your beloved
  • Realize you never had a full understanding of what love was until you accepted His
  • Love your beloved selflessly and witness change

three

a poem for each person who made an imprint on my August 2025 while in Miami

Impromptu “Lyft” Driver

Timidly, I accepted your offer with suspicion
My imagination convinced me my vacation would be short-lived

With worry, I expressed a change of plans
I perceived disappointment and expected retaliation

So we brace ourselves.

But no, there was none to be found
Instead, gentleness

Where was the entitlement
The undercurrent of anger
I anticipated pressure

There was none

Simply reassurance and acquiescence
So I waited
And so did you

Within those minutes the tension grew
I began to doubt what I should do

Skepticism melted to comfort
Realizing safety was with you

Moments passed and my assigned arrived
Instant relief,
A pinch of disappointment as you followed my eyes

Swiftly, you were curbside
Making your presence known

Sparing mine, he employed strength
Bags gathered and door opened

“Take care of her”
“Let me know if you need me”

And just like that
I missed a stranger

Fellow Concert Goer

i was determined to be alone
not that i had a choice

i was determined to be comfortable
with my company and compromise
don’t compare me

i’m here now
did i mentioned alone?

time passed, now i’m surrounded

blinders on and i’ll focus on the beat
so much to see around me

light play, leaves sway,
heyyy DJ!

straight faced
i’ll lock my eyes on you
not the duos, nor the trios

i’m alone, don’t look at me
administer this courtesy

*tap tap*
uh oh, i’ve been perceived
Are you here for Chet?
i blinked twice in disbelief

God bless the fearless ones
be it pretend or authentically so

He sent you my way
to comfort my soul

the sparks in life
are few and far between

thank You for sending someone
who made me feel seen

The Unexpected Balm

Not the ride I was expecting
One question, now reminiscing

Why are you that way?

Not you just asking me this question but
now i want to ask you!

What is it that you love to do?
redirect me to my passion
life is lifeless without this fuel to action

Have you forgiven him?
I have no idea, but I won’t forgive you if you make me cry in this back seat
I’M ON VACATION

How can you affirm me whilst digging deep in my mind?
get out of there! Wait no. Stay…
just not that corner of my brain.

A father figure for forty minutes
No internal fight with this familiarity
a flight for this nonfiction?
no friction

you are welcomed here

Côte d’Azur (french riviera)

Nice

As recommended by most, Nice was the base during our vacation. Navigating the city was fairly easy, overall. Bakeries, bus stops, and markets were plenty and easily accessible. More time was spent in Nice than originally planned because we ended up splitting our days into two: the first half was used to explore another village and the second half was taken in Nice. Somehow, the trip felt like it lasted so much longer by doing this! Most of the time, we’d take a nap midday to recharge for a dip in the ocean.

If you’ve learned you’re not entirely big on French food, no problem! I came across a variety of cuisines while exploring. I’m not sure if the south of France is known for a specific style of food (I could’ve done better research) but we definitely tried different things at each restaurant we chose. I would recommend learning basic food names and known allergies before visiting to make life a little easier.

There were no shortages of souvenir, gift, and chocolate shops! On one of our evenings closer to the end of the trip, we did some shopping for our family and then went to the beach (there was NO way we’d hike all the way back to the Airbnb). We had our stuff covered while enjoying the warm water though I never suspected someone would come over to take our goods; I’m just used to hiding my belongings in public.

Villefranche-sur-Mer

On the first full day, we went to Villefranche-sur-Mer (VsM). The area we visited was walkable though some of the sidewalks were fairly narrow. The only reason I noticed was because I had a 10-year-old to look after who kept stepping in the street 🙂 Quiet yet active is how I would describe VsM. Some people were enjoying the water not too far from the marina. I saw a variety of water activities like swimming, snorkeling, and paddle boarding. Ohhh, how I wish we bought our bathing suits! While meandering about, we came across the citadel and checked out a display of beautifully blown glass. I recommend going to the top if you haven’t succumbed to fatigue because you’ll get a lovely panoramic view and it’s worth it!

Gelato and time in the shade was how we cooled down after getting cooked in the sun. It was consumed in a matter of seconds. We did return to VsM after a couple days because our speedboat tour had this town as a pitstop and we spent our free time grabbing brekkie by the water.

Antibes

From the station, we took a 20-minute walk down to the beach. Front and center on the beach is a historic monument called Le Fort Carré. Public bathrooms can be found built into the walls… and I’ll tell you this… I won’t complain about another public restroom in North Carolina again. And that’s all I shall share. We picked our spot in the sand and got settled. It seemed generally acceptable to be at the beach topless (no matter what beach we went to during our trip). It’s something my little brother had to get used to and I really hoped this experience helped to combat the sexualization of women’s bodies, that is bombarded all over the media.

Another thing I noticed was most beaches we visited were of stone but this one was sand! Well… Kind of half-and-half: where the towels were laid out on the beach, there is sand but as you approach and enter the water, there is stone. I’m so glad we had water shoes! The water felt amazing and it was calm! Nasir turned into a fish and it seemed he didn’t want to leave.

After a while, something unfortunate happened. Someone was walking their dog at the top of the fortress, and the dog stepped up on the edge and fell over. I only saw the aftermath: the dog was whimpering on his side struggling to get up. I was in shock. It was sad to see, but I think the dog survived with a few injuries. Locals took him over to a first aid booth nearby.

When we were ready to leave, we went to Les Filles du Micocoulier for brekkie. Nasir seemed to like his breakfast, but I was not happy with mine. In fact, I wasn’t happy with most of my meals because they lacked flavor.

We took many photos, walked around the area, and came across the Marché Provençal. I highly recommend coming here early to avoid crowds because it was a little overwhelming; there was so much to see and an equal amount of people present.

Èze

We first saw the commune of Èze during our speedboat tour. It’s a small village that sits on top of a hill over 2000 feet above sea level. Fairytales were inspired by places like this one – I’m convinced. The place was mesmerizing! I will say make sure to pack multiple bottles of water and go early in the day because walking around this area is quite the workout and it’s even more intense if you go during the summertime like we did. It’s also highly recommended to go earlier to get photos without the background noise. Our first stop was to get food! Nasir ordered a large burger with fries and ate everything and I had a banana crêpe with Nutella. We also watched some of the Olympics while we were there and we took our time because we knew we’d be working out! This place was mainly a photo opp. I actually recommend coming here for souvenirs over Nice because the crafts were of higher quality and didn’t wreak of mass production.

Monaco

Such a beautiful place to simply walk around. Everywhere I turned, I found myself in awe of the cityscape. Our first stop was the Prince’s Palace. They gave us headphones and something of a radio where you could select a button and it would give you information on the corresponding room. Though, I found the experience somewhat interesting. I don’t recommend bringing kids unless they are thrilled about history and architecture. Even then, the excitement is likely to dwindle prematurely. After leaving, we went to the restaurant nearby and got lunch for Nasir. This is also where I got bit multiple times by mosquitoes and chased by bees. The food was amazing (the best I had during the trip!) but I suffered. We continued on foot towards the oceanographic museum. This place had so much to offer! You need at least two hours to take everything in. Before leaving Monaco, we had our last dance with gelato.


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An Hour Ago, I Was Almost Hit By A Car.

I just finished reading the devotional of the day inside my car. I sent my friends an encouraging voice note and also asked them to pray over me… I’ve been needing my ego to take a back seat. This morning, I got to work early. The last two slices of pound cake were waiting to be heated up alongside my ginger honey tea. I popped the trunk and grabbed my work bag and lunch box. As I was making my way down the crosswalk, I noticed a green cube car in my peripheral that wasn’t slowing down. When I turned to look, I heard the car accelerate and saw the driver looking to the left (everyone is eager to get a parking spot right in front of the building). And in slow motion, I yelled and jumped put of the way. She was so close to hitting me. I was in shock. I had to be 8 feet away from the entrance of the building… what are the odds of something like this happening to close to safety. I scanned my badge, and walked into the lobby, then sat down. I tried comforting myself. I called my mom – that helped. Two coworkers witnessed the incident and couldn’t believe what they saw. I’m thankful they checked on me. The person who almost hit me came in and apologized multiple times. She said “I didn’t see you. I’m so sorry… truly. Let me know if you need anything”. But I couldn’t think of a single need… and if I had… I’m not sure I’d have wanted her to provide it.

When I reached my desk, I finished the call with my mom. Tears fell from my face and gratitude whispered from my lips. I’m sitting here now, noticing the chatter around me. The joking and laughter… the sound of typing and mouse clicks. It’s strange how my external environment is oblivious to my internal chaos. As my body regulated, I had an epiphany. All the debt I’ve been working on paying off, the plans I make with friends and family, the studying and aspirations I have would all be for nothing if I ceased to exist. Bear with me. I know financial planning and memories with loved ones are impactful but when an individual’s light goes “out” they have nothing to show for… nothing goes with you.

The most important thing worth having and maintaining is the relationship with my Savior.

Even this incident served a purpose.

san Diego, ca

Mission Bay Park / Mission Beach

First trip to the west coast and all I wanted to see was whales. The tour guide was knowledgeable and shared many fun facts about all the creatures we saw from the moment we left the dock. It’s easy to get seasick out there, but they offered something you can put on your wrist (I forget the name of it) that’s supposed to help. We didn’t get to see the majestic beasts but there were plenty of dolphins riding the waves from the boat. I was so happy to see them and equally glad they stuck around for a while.

I returned to Missions a few days later to play beach volleyball. The group I was invited to play with was welcoming, encouraging, and fun! I was nervous at first because I didn’t want to mess up and I know people can be very competitive, so I just didn’t want to throw the game off. Ultimately, I was worried for nothing because I played better than I expected!

La Jolla

Hiking the natural reserve was such a sweet treat because I didn’t know what to expect from the views. My friend, Curtis, invited me out for a hike so I didn’t look up the Google images; I just went with the flow. I’m big on scenery. It’s one of the things that help me decide where I want to go for vacation. As the hike progressed, it became painfully obvious I was a tourist. So many “ooo’s” and “ahh’s” and plenty of photography. Sometimes I would just stop and stare because it was gorgeous! Taking in where the cliffs meet the ocean was long overdue.

Mount Soledad was the next stop. The atmosphere was peaceful and solemn as it was a memorial for fallen soldiers. At the top, you’re able to get a 360-degree view of the city below. On this day, we were able to see the huge blanket of fog covering the beach. There was also an ice cream truck nearby. It’s definitely a place one would come to clear their mind or to have a heart-to-heart conversation.

Little Italy

Looking back, I wish I spent a little extra time here to bar-hop and see more of the area. One of the places I did check out was Underbelly for their ramen. I am pretty sure I saw it in a TikTok video (that’s how I’ve been doing my research these days on what to eat and where to go). This was my first time having real ramen! And the experience really set the standard. My food was amazing. I was slurping and had no shame. Zero remorse.

I ordered beef bao buns, which were also tasty but definitely unnecessary because the ramen was quite filling.

Balboa Park

My eyes were pleased, and though I only spent a couple hours here looking around and taking in the greenery and architecture, I could easily see myself, grabbing a blanket and laying out in the park with great company and a basket of fruit. The park was beautiful and the weather was perfect. There was a plaza full of people where the energy was high, but there were so many areas in the park that were calm and quiet.

Coronado Beach

I went midday during the week instead of the weekend, hoping to avoid crowds, and I got exactly what I wanted. The sun was out, and there was plenty of space on the beach. The tide was low and the water was definitely cold. Unfortunately, I couldn’t frolic the way I imagined so I spent more time frying. Once I figured I had enough, it was time to take a stroll, check out different shops, and pick up some postcards. If I were to visit San Diego again with the desire to only relax, this area would be my base. Nevertheless, I definitely felt the need to explore because this is my first time here on the West Coast! The trip was a success. I’d love to return.

taking it easy in Savannah – the hostess city

May 26th

After waking up with a large hood of an Alfa Romeo above my head, I decided it was time to rent a bike and explore downtown. I grabbed my shower items, hopped over to the shared bathroom, and took my precious time because this is a vacation.

I left the main house, went downstairs through the gate and found where the bikes, helmets, and waiver were set up. After filling out the consent form, I sent $10 via Venmo to rent the bike for the day (great price, no?). Before hitting the street, I took a couple of practice rides in a seemingly discreet area. Hopefully, there were no witnesses.

Full transparency! I was a little nervous, but I knew this is how I wanted to explore the city. Once I became comfortable, I peddled my way down Whitaker Street. It was about 70° outside but the sun was hiding and there was a breeze going (without the bike ride) but I was working up the warmth I needed.

I was en route to Collins Quarter (about 12 minutes away), which I heard a lot about on social media. It’s known as a good spot for brunch! Once I arrived, I was promptly seated outdoors. I ordered the Bubble and Squeak which I thought was the cutest name for a dish, but also kind of strange 🙂 My dish was vibrant and caught the eyes of a few by-passers. I also ordered a turmeric latte to knock off the chill.

When breakfast was through, I decided to push on and explore more of the area. I checked out a few gift shops to find a cute (and reasonably priced sweater) because I was chilly! Also, I wanted a small memento from Savannah. I saw the famous girl waving statue and the “bridge of love” with the locks. I was riding my bike all over the area and I finally made my way to the JW Marriott Riverside Plant – the place was breathtaking. I could see why someone would have their wedding reception in that location because it was gorgeous.

After seeing all that I could (gemstones, fossils, skeletons, artwork, mini shops), I decided to go to the rooftop bar called Electric Moon. I ordered the High Beam cocktail (loved it) and some mini quesadillas (not for sharing).

People-watching was my source of entertainment as I finished my food. The ambiance was nice and high energy but I came late afternoon before 5:00 PM so there weren’t many people present. Wanting to make the most of it, I grabbed my cocktail and I found the slide that takes you outdoors to the terrace downstairs. This area is where the real fun is supposed to happen! I looked around and noticed a few small pockets of people and everyone seemed pretty cozy and locked in. I checked out a few life-sized games and then headed out. From there, I made my way back to the Airbnb and called a Lyft to take me about 15 minutes down the road to a nail salon. One of my nails broke upon my arrival and I refused to walk around like that during my “me-time” 🙂

My day ended with Netflix and subpar takeout from Fire Street Food. I ordered the teriyaki tofu with steamed rice… my tofu had a burnt aftertaste. Sadness.

May 27th

Up and at ‘em again but with a steady downpour, so no bike riding for me. I figured I’d start the day off with the SCAD museum. My favorite part was the glass-blown light fixtures. The pieces were so vibrant. It took about 35  minutes to go through the whole museum… I was a little disappointed because of how small it was… I had afternoon tea on my mind and saw that the Gryphon Tea Room was within walking distance so I hit the sidewalk! Not only was today wet and rainy but the temperature also dropped and I was ready to quickly get inside. My wait time was about an hour but I knew if I left for a different location, I’d be resetting the clock for the same length. I didn’t mind so much because there was a cute little sofa available and I was able to shake off the chill. There was so much to take in once I got a good look around… the room was grand with warm welcoming tones and dim lighting. Once I was seated, I eventually ordered the root vegetable salad. Because the vegetables were roasted, I thought the salad would be a warm one, but it was cold, to my dismay. I also ordered a chai latte with oat milk and a raspberry scone. I’m not sure why I just didn’t get regular afternoon tea but next time…

The Gryphon Tea Room is FILLED with antiquated books so it tracks that I would receive my bill inside of one. That made me smile (it’s the small things and I appreciate clever presentation). Did I mention that today was colder than usual? 😉 I ordered a Lyft, jumped in the car, headed back to the Airbnb and bumped up the heat.

After my nap, I figured it’d be a good idea to put something on my stomach before it got too late. There was still some light in the sky so decided to look for something close by. I was a few minutes walk away from a café called Foxy Loxy. I ordered a single vegetable taco. It was tasty (though greasy) and I regretted not ordering another. Something new I tried: a horchata latte. It had espresso in it; an interesting twist I don’t care to experience a second time.

On the way back from my evening snack, I spotted a real-life gingerbread house.
It was adorable and a nice treat for the eyes… though I craved something edible to curb my growing sweet tooth. I went to the closest gas station and grabbed a cookies and cream Hershey’s bar.

Today was won by the weather – I didn’t get to see much but I knew I’d make up for it the next day…

May 28th

A slow morning is a lovely way to start the day. I had a book club meeting at 11:30 AM, afterward, I picked out my clothes and took my time getting ready. I decided I would walk downtown instead of taking a bike or a Lyft to see more of the city’s beauty. If you know me, you know I have moments when I’m directionally challenged. I was walking the wrong way for about 10 minutes… As I noticed the city’s charm beginning to fade, I opened Google Maps and quickly pivoted to get on track. A strong five minutes into my reroute, someone in a blue Hyundai Elantra pulled up and began chatting with me. We talked for about 20 minutes before I decided it was safe and I was comfortable enough to accept the ride they offered. (dearest reader, I do not condone this behavior.) I got a mini tour of the area and some extra fun facts about Savannah. I do believe that meeting locals gives you more insight into exploring the area you’re visiting. But please be careful and less trusting than me.

The Friendly Driver dropped me close to the place I decided on for brunch: The Nest. The atmosphere was charged up and designed for lounging and socializing. The DJ outside played a great mix of music that everyone seemed to enjoy.

It took a while for my waitress to come over to me (not gonna lie, I was irritated), but when she finally took my order, she was pretty attentive. I was hard to miss, though! I was a party of one in the middle of the room so I’m not sure how that happened. Fast and Furious was playing on one of the flat screens until a man requested the golf channel which completely clashed with the whole vibe. That should not have been allowed! Anyway, I ordered the vegetable burger sliders with sweet potato fries and a mocktail (a light gingery drink). The Nest was my favorite eatery! I happily relaxed while taking in my environment and polished off each morsel.

Once the check was settled, I headed down to the river walk and began my on-foot sightseeing tour. Though I had read of Jones Street, one of the most beautiful streets in the country, I didn’t expect to come across it. Oh but when I did, I was in awe! It was absolutely dreamy and beautiful in a moody way, thanks to the overcast skies. I took my time here. It’s not often I wish for company during my solo travels but a moment like that ought to be shared.

The full walk back was about 40 minutes, and when I had maybe 15 minutes left to my commute, I was approached by a man on the street, who decided to share his whole life with me. He sipped at his beer as he shared with me the dangers of Savannah, which I thought was ironic since I was alone, and he was a complete stranger (again, dearest reader, I do not condone this). He wasn’t a threat, kept a respectable distance, and had manners.

That pretty much wrapped up my day. I took it easy for the rest of the evening because I had to leave at 12:30 AM to catch my train back home.
Would I come back to Savannah?

Absolutely.


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San Juan, Puerto Rico | March 2023

Tiffany wanted to go to Puerto Rico for her birthday so guess where we went? Puerto Rico!

I usually have more time to plan, budget, and buy my flight but not this time around. I looked for the cheapest flight I could find because most of them were about $600. The cheapest one was Frontier being just under 300 bucks.

I purchased a luggage allowance two weeks before the trip, and I only packed a carry-on to keep my costs low. If you couldn’t tell by now… this was going to be a *budget* vacay.

DEPARTURE

I might’ve flown with Frontier Airlines one time before and I don’t recall anything negative so the experience must’ve been decent. BUT none of that matters now because the turbulence I experienced was theee worst. I was beginning to reconsider my future trips because the scariest thoughts came to mind. I was on an emotional rollercoaster! Kinda excited about PR, but also kinda thought we were gonna lose altitude.

ARRIVAL

The Airbnb was 10 minutes away from the airport.*chefs kiss*.  But as our driver was dropping us off, he told us not to go out at night, and he also told us to not go down the street in a certain direction… Of course, this made us feel uneasy. We searched for a restaurant and decide on Costa Azul Wine and Lounge. We ordered another Uber, and we asked the driver’s opinion on the area of our Airbnb. He mentioned drug activity and violence. Imagine how we felt.

After looking over the menu, I decided on cod croquettes, which were absolutely amazing. I finished off with the white chocolate crème brûlée… It was the best I ever had. Truly delicious and decadent. It was my first time trying a flavored crème brûlée and I regret sharing it lol!

sidenote: unless you’re buying food in a non-touristy area and checking out hole-in-the-wall locations, do know you’re going to spend the same amount of money on food that you would back at home (for reference I’m in North Carolina).

We returned to our Airbnb and contemplated leaving the area. We tried to get a partial refund from the host but of course, they can’t control the neighborhood… Airbnb only deals with the property (it was worth a shot ;). We cut our losses and booked a hotel. We’d leave in the morning.

DAY 1

Bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, I woke… however, the girls had it rough. There was a dying cat, a barking dog, and a chatty rooster throughout the night. I, on the other hand, slept with noise-canceling headphones and nightshades. I don’t play about my sleep 🙂

We dropped off our luggage and walked around a bit. The hotel was down the street from an STK restaurant and a Cartier store. The beach was 5 minutes away on foot… does that paint the picture? Such a stark difference! We took pictures and we came across a mini breakfast shop. I ordered oatmeal with cinnamon and bananas… Why was this the best oatmeal I ever had in my life? Am I doing something wrong at home? We ate our food and went to the beach. We found a great spot under a palm tree when a piña colada pusher approached us. He wanted to sell one piña colada (from a real pineapple) to us with alcohol for $20. I don’t think I’ve ever spent $20 on an alcoholic beverage. I don’t give a crap if I’m on a beach and if the ingredients are fresh. We said no and he went on his way. He came back a couple of times to negotiate. We finally settled on two piña coladas for $30 though I am 80% sure he did not put any alcohol in it so I think we got ripped off!

Despite being potentially played, the drink was gorgeous. After laying out in the sun, we made our way to Walgreens for a few items and to withdraw cash. While en route, we saw a sign for piña coladas being sold for $7.50! I was devastated lol. I’ve been had. Bamboozled. Played. This would be the second lesson I’ve learned while on this trip.

After running our errands, we went back to the hotel, collected the bags, and checked into our room. We took the elevator to the third floor, room 302. But the elevator jerked downward as it came to a stop. We rushed off quickly, and I swore I wouldn’t get back on it.

Next up was horseback riding! It was about an hour’s drive to Carabalí Rainforest Park. The music was bumpin’, and the servers were hustlin’ and busin’ tables. The energy was high! We waited a little while before our group was called. I had a horse named Sandy, and she had a lot of… personality. I was worried at first, but we ended up being a match. We didn’t actually go into the rainforest, but we did get to see it. I was disappointed because the title of the tour was misleading. Nevertheless, I had a good time and it was pretty chill! We didn’t get to trot, gallop or go through water but the scenery was pleasant. Truth be told, I was over it after 30 minutes.

After the ride, we wanted to eat immediately! I had a strong appetite. Originally, I wanted to find a different place to go for dinner, but we just ate on the premises because it required 0 brain power. I ordered chicken mofongo with garlic sauce and plantain chips. The food was alright! I would give it a 7.4 out of 10. I ate it like it was a 10/10 though. We paid, ordered an Uber to go home, and I was ready to go straight to sleep after that… but I felt bad because the girls wanted to go out.

We arrived at Éter Rooftop and… of course, we took an elevator. As we exited, we heard a banging on the one next to us. We later discovered someone was stuck in the elevator! If I ever come back, I will never take an elevator in Puerto Rico because I don’t have time to experience these fears. That’s not the thrill I’m seeking. I know I shouldn’t generalize… but I’d rather that than risk my sanity (forgive me). We ordered drinks. Service was slow, but the view was gorgeous. Once I received it, the garnishment was missing… My drink was naked and room temp lol. Despite my sad cocktail, our waitress was working hard and deserved a tip. We finished our drinks and took more pictures. The girls took the elevator down and I took the stairs because I refuse to be stranded in a metal container while on vacation. A shower was had and sleep followed promptly after because I was beat.

DAY 2

Woke up with food on my mind. We went to Wicked Ivy at the Tryst Hotel for breakfast by the beach. I craved French toast but I caught a glimpse of it on someone else’s table. It looked thick and a little dry. I wasn’t in the mood for pancakes, so I ordered garlic and parmesan potatoes along with two eggs. The potatoes carried the flavor while my eggs were plain and fried hard. Right after, we caught a ride to Old San Juan. We were dropped off at the main castle at the top of the hill. This day was my favorite, because we explored, sunbathed, took in beautiful natural views, got to see a lot of the city, and stopped at plenty of souvenir shops. I felt like a true tourist! I got some tamarind juice… (though it wasn’t fresh like what I had in Costa Rica) and later, I had two chicken empanadas… I will never forget the way they smelled, and tasted. OMG, these are the best empanadas I ever had in my entire life and I pray I will be able to make them this good. I’m telling you – this day alone was worth the entire trip for me. All of my senses were satisfied.

The full day was spent in Viejo San Juan and we left just before 7 o’clock. For dinner, we went to STK since it was close by and we wanted to end the night on a nice note. However, if you’ve been to STK, you know that STK prices are not budget-friendly. The cheapest things on the menu were salads ($25). I almost got a salad, but I opted for the tuna tartare which was the same price. The girls got salads and they were not happy with their purchase at all, but let me tell you about my food… It was hittin’!! I was pleased with it! I took my time and savored each morsel. We also ordered a cookie with ice cream on top and I have to tell you… the skillet cookies I’ve ordered from chain restaurants taste 1000 times better than the cookie we had that night. And it’s really sad because you expect the quality of a thing to increase with the price tag and this didn’t happen here. We left for the hotel and packed to get ready for our early departure.

TAKE AWAY

If I visit Puerto Rico again, I’m 100% sure I’d stay on the other side of the island to see more of it.

I learned a few things and was reminded of others:

  • Always check out the street view of the Airbnb before booking to ensure the area is safe and to your liking
  • Have a list of restaurants you want to check out for breakfast lunch and dinner to save time once you’re ready to eat
  • Withdraw cash before travel to avoid fees and to tip the locals!
  • Make sure to budget for meals in advance (of course, this was a rookie mistake)
  • If the infrastructure looks sketchy, opt for the heart-healthy route and take the stairs 😉
  • Always ask the locals where you should go and what places you should avoid
  • Take it easy! Relax on your vacation. It’s 100% okay to change your mind

Run.

Something in me knows better

She knows it’s not safe here

Things are looking familiar

No physical danger

But an emotional minefield

Mind field

Brain & intuition at war

I’m still learning to fully trust myself

I know it’s not safe here

Where’s the security?

You’re safe in me

But myself? In you?

No. Where’s the security?

Glean never-ending reassurance

and leave me barren

You’re taking me from my element

Pulling me from my essence

and leaving me empty

I have to protect her

You’ve seen the love I can give

Your eyes grow green; your aura dark

Wanting what’s mine

I want to be wrong but she whispers

“Run”.

Pure Serendipity: Quepos, Costa Rica (incomplete)

Travel Dates: September 6th – September 10th, 2022
Rainy Season: May through November

The last few months, I just knew I would party hard once I got to Costa Rica. But by the time September came around, all I wanted to do was relax. The following is my recollection from beginning to end, as I would hate to forget a single detail from this trip.

September 6 – Arrival (gso>dfw>sjo)

We woke up not so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, around 5:00am. Personally, I was a bit tense because as a general rule of thumb, you should arrive 3 hours early for international flights (even though we had a domestic connection). The flight was scheduled to leave at 7:30am AND we had one bag to check in. Of course, the people at the check in booth attempted to chastise but I made it very clear what I needed (and did not need) that morning. Shortly after checking in, I dashed over to the TSA line where Kai was already showing his passport to the officer. Good timing, no? I swooped right in and showed mine next. I’m hustling toward the gate and Kai is taking his time, completely un-phased. He reminded me that these things “always work themselves out” and to just go with the flow. We make our way to the gate and I believe they started boarding. Kai was one group ahead of me and I told him to take my carry-on – just in case they ran out of room. Sure enough, after he scanned his boarding pass they informed the remaining passengers there was no more room in the overhead bins. Good luck? About 2 hours later, we landed in Dallas. We didn’t have much downtime as our final flight to San Jose was set to depart within an hour of our landing. I may have grabbed a croissant… we boarded our final flight and arrived in San Jose a little after 2:00pm. Once we got there, we got there, we looked for Avis but soon learned they didn’t have a representative onsite. Another company representative let us know there is a shuttle that will take us to Avis. A little dismayed, we left the building and looked for the shuttle, and viola, it was right there waiting for us! They loaded our luggage and dropped us off at Avis. Once we arrive, there were two people ahead of us in line. It took almost an hour to get some help. Kai checked our car> t h o r o u g h l y < and made notes of every single blemish he could find. For the last time, we loaded up the vehicle and began our 3-hour commute to the coast for our hotel. Please note: this was Kai’s first time driving internationally. Our shuttle drive over to Avis was the only insight we received on what to expect on the roads. The driving style isn’t exactly a “free for all” but there were many opportunities for surprise… in polite terms. Ultimately, it wasn’t as organized as what I’m used to back home but it works! It rained the whole time during our commute and at times it was quite heavy. Upon arrival, we were greeted by a friendly golf cart driver who would soon become out go-to guy. “Good friend” (because I forgot his name!) helped us park, loaded the golf cart, and dropped the bags in the hotel room while we checked in. The check-in process was smooth, overall with a couple hiccups. The incidental hold caught us off guard (for the room and the car actually) and we had to show the receptionist that our breakfast was included in the package. Good friend picked us up from the main lobby and took us to our room. Our room was at the top of a very steep hill. Kai was in the front seat of the golf cart and I was in the back. I was SUPER ANXIOUS The only thing on our mind was food and rest! We ordered dinner at the Arbol Restaurant, which was on the hotel premises, and had it delivered to our room. Mahi and risotto along with pork belly and mashed potatoes… Overall, it was C+. Thankfully, this was the only underwhelming food experience we had

September 7 – Settle In

This day was our first full day here and we took out time to decide what we wanted to do on… Our birthday! Puffy-faced and clothed in PJs, we stepped out onto our private balcony, took in the fresh air, and admired the view. Today we would take it easy. Breakfast was on my mind as dinner wasn’t very filling (nor satisfying). After freshening up, we made our way downstairs for brekkie. Fresh fruit was placed first and the juice of the day was fresh watermelon (sooo fresh). I ordered an egg white and avocado omelet. Though our breakfast was included, I was still hesitant to order all that I wanted until day three. After breakfast, I headed up the street (another massive hill but for cars, not golf carts) to pick up beverages and snacks. The idea was to save funds by having our own spirit supply… the intention was good! Local snacks were also on the list! I tried something called “tostones” which are smashed, seasoned, and cooked plained (I think fried). I regret not buying more and bringing them home. They were so tasty! The private beach demanded our presence. After stockpiling, Good Friend picked us up from the room and drove us all the way down the mountain to the beach. My ear popped a few times on our descent. Once we reached the pathway to the beach, the driver pointed out the monkeys in the trees. He shared there was once a time when a man trained them on how to steal. That one monkey taught all his friends. As you can imagine, it was a chaotic time. Aha, he said the man was arrested but I wonder how he was found…

On the beach, we lounged in the chairs for a bit, enjoyed our drinks, and listened to Sam Smith. We ventured out toward the water. The beach was composed of tiny rocks and pebbles (some, not so smooth). I found a light sage stone and asked Kai to slip it into his pocket. It would definitely make its way into my memory box. We walked along the beach until a rock formation prevented us to go further. I tested the water and felt how strong the tide was. I tried to walk a little further and my foot DROPPED. I retreated. The tide was forceful, the water was dark and I was intimidated. No thanks. I made my way back to the lounging chair and got comfy. Shortly after, my tummy began to itch and I felt little bumps. I made a swift exit to the suite for a shower. It also began to rain around this time. The rest of the day was spent lounging and taking in our environment. My favorite part of this day was the real, raw and meaningful conversation we had that evening. They say communication is key, but being able to express yourself clearly and finding the courage to express vulnerability is a feat. This was growth for me because though I can express my ideas clearly, I don’t usually do this in interpersonal relationships.

September 8 – Start High, End Low

So, the activities begin. After a full day of relaxation, it was time to get out there and experience new things! Today started with brekkie, of course, but this time, I tried something new! Pumpkin pancakes with salmon and avocado. I also ordered a ginger mango smoothie. Listen… when I tell you I was so pleased… I mean it from the bottom of my heart. The smoothies were also requested again, later on. After filling our tummies, we gathered the necessities and waited to get picked up for our first event: parasailing. This is something I’ve never done before. It always seemed rather peaceful but still daring. I headed over to the booth set up on the beach to check-in. We’d opted for the 15-minute ride (at the time I thought this was too short), pictures and video. We lounged on the beach until they were ready to get us set up. I stepped into my harness and the lad was letting me know what to expect/ She said everything would be a smooth process from going up into the air, to landing in the water. She said this twice and I trusted her. They hooked us up to the parachute and sure enough, as the boat went further on the water, the parachute began to lift and pull. Everything seemed to happen within 4 seconds. I was walking, then running, and yanked into the air! The beginning was quite abrupt but everything afterward was calm and beautiful. The weather was perfect and the greenish-blue water was sparkling from our view as we gained altitude. I was awestruck! I began to feel more anxious after realizing just how high up we were. I anticipated a sudden drop and this is what made me tense. The woman who strapped me in never mentioned said drop but I convinced myself it was going to happen because of the abrupt start. I said a prayer and tried to remain calm. Kai later revealed to me that my worry began to make his stomach hurt. As the boat turned around to head back, I was eagerly waiting for our landing in the water. The drone came back around and recorded the end of our flight. When we landed in the water, there was a jetski waiting for us. Mounting it may have caused a bruise. We walked around a bit while waiting for the pictures and videos to process. Kai was offered weed a few times… *crickets*. They airdropped us the media and we headed back to Makanda and went straight for the brand new saltwater infinity pool (that opened upon our arrival!). The water was cold. Kai got some photos by the edge and I stayed by the bar to order a pina colada (YUM). I hopped in the jacuzzi for a few and left to sunbathe. When the sun grew too intense, we left for the main pool for a change of scenery. We were in and out of the water until the rain began for the day. Back in the room, I spent an unusual amount of quality time with the garden tub in the middle of the bathroom until it was to leave for Emilios Cafe for dinner.

I am pretty sure we got a taxi to pick us up and take us to the restaurant. It was raining and we were in full rain gear from head to toe, but it wasn’t pouring like it was before. As soon as you walk in, we are welcome with the fun artwork, and there was plenty to find after being seated and taking in the surroundings. This location was artsy, eclectic, and had an open atmosphere. Like most of the restaurants that we went to, you weren’t separated from nature. The tone was relaxed the customer demographics were the most diverse I’d seen during my visit. The menu did not leave me wanting as there were so many options. Of course, I wanted to try something new. There was an octopus and potato starter. Reluctantly, Kai agreed. I was the first to sample it! The flavor was almost a hit but the texture was a huge miss for me. I had charbroiled octopus before and enjoyed it but I don’t believe it was cooked the same. It felt like gum. I held it in my mouth and pushed it to the side as I encouraged Kai to give it a go. He too was dissatisfied. We spit it out. Our main meal touched the table, soon after.

September 9 – Nothing but Adrenaline

Waterfall tour

September 10 – Farewell

Departure


Hi. It saddens me that I didn’t get to finish this as intended. This account deserved completion but I let it sit for too long and I no longer feel moved to reflect. I had amazing memories in a new country with a pretty great guy. In December 2022, we decided it was best for us to dissolve our relationship. The memories live on! In the spirit of reflection, be very careful of the company you keep while on vacation. I feel blessed to hold absolutely no resentment towards a former partner. I want to keep these memories… but if I had chosen wrong or gone on this trip with another, perhaps I wouldn’t feel the same. I will always be an advocate for solo trips unless you’re going with a long-time friend or lover ;).


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