Portland, maine

A recapture of our time together exploring Portland, Maine.

September 30th – Western Promenade

Happy 20th, Cantara!

We left for RDU airport around 6:15AM, connected in LaGuardia at 11:00AM and landed in Portland, Maine just before 1:00PM.

Once settled at the hotel, a nap was in order. We woke with a mean appetite and had our eyes set on Vietnamese cuisine. She ordered pho, and I, a vermicelli noodle bowl (we both tried something new).

As the sun began to set, we headed towards the Western Promenade (it was the only thing we had planned for a short day). The walk was no more than 15 minutes from the hotel and once we got closer, I noticed a couple of (presumably) unhoused people and carts filled with belongings.
I gave pause because I wasn’t sure what to expect from the park (it never hurts to be extra cautious while exploring). Despite a moment of hesitation, we continued onward, up the winding pathway. Little did we know, there was a gift waiting to greet us during our ascension.

The sunset.

It was absolutely beautiful. What’s more, students, families, couples, and solos were enjoying the park watching the same sky show. Seeing people unplugged and enjoying one another is always refreshing… Some were exercising, canoodling, petting their loyal pup and laying out on a blanket. Oh, how I wish I had something like this near my residence!

This is the first sunset my sister and I shared together – the first sunrise was in Kenya. 🙂

We continued along the walkway, took notice of the homes in the area and began pondering their estimated value. We ooo’d and ahhh’d along Carroll Street, criticised some homes and praised the features of others. Each one had character and none looked the same.

October 1st – Old Port and Downtown

Breakfast in our pajamas was how we started our day (which is the right way, in case you were wondering ;). With bellies full, we began our journey to the Victoria Mansion. Now… Had I learned more history behind the original owner, I likely would have been less interested. Our tour guide was okay… she rubbed me the wrong way a couple times, especially when she called the forced labor of the enslaved people “help”. Help is voluntary. I asked a fair share of questions (along with others) throughout the tour. In the last room we visited, I asked her about a “darling egg” and she explained it. Before leaving the room, she asked if the group had any questions and no one said anything. She then turned to me and asked me if I had any to which I responded no… She then said she was surprised which confused me because I already asked my question. But her tone was more taunting than amusing. Someone else chimed in on my behalf, thankfully. I’d give the tour guide a genrous 2.8 out of 5 stars.

Overall, the mansion was one of kind but not the kind I’d fancy (because, I’m obviously in the market). The rooms were ornate and exploding with trims, paintings gold accents and woodwork. My favorite was the Turkish room because of its intimate size and warm colors.

The gift shop had all kinds of fun trinkets and souvenirs . Once we left, we continued on to Downtown and Old Port area looking for the best sweatshirts. Naturally, many books, knickknacks and clothing items caught our attention. I tend to take pictures of books and later check to see if my library has them on the Libby or Hoopla apps. Unfortunately, I suffered greatly from decision fatigue but not Cantara; she found a cute blue sweatshirt and I didn’t get mine until just before the end of the trip.

Our appetites returned to us with a vengeance while we were near the highly popular Duck Fat restaurant. As soon as we received a text our table was ready, we swiftly made our way
inside and took our seats. The sandwiches were tasty but the FRIES were out of this world. “These are the best fries I ever had” – Cantara. And I agree. Was it the duck fat that instilled the rich flavor or a combination of meticulously measured spices? We’ll never know. Here’s what’s known: this restaurant has raised our standard for fries.


With our palates satisfied, we walked along the port and popped into a couple of galleries. One artist in particular made such vibrant paintings which juxtaposed the atrocities experienced and witnessed in his childhood. I asked the shopkeeper (who is also one of the artists with work on display) about the painter. My heart smiled to hear he’s one of the most cheerful people she’s ever met.

A few artists pulled my attention but his story and works changed my brain chemistry for the better.

October 2nd – Eastern Promenade / East Bayside

First thing in the morning was our 9 o’clock appointment for permanent bracelets at LadyFine Jewelry. Opening the solid door on the side of a windowless building felt… a little taboo – glad there was a sign! We took our time deciding which style we wanted to commit to for the rest of our lives. The one I really wanted was $200 steeper than I originally planned. The design I opted for was simple and complemented my other bracelet. Cantara chose a bracelet that reflected any present light – I think it was called sunburst? Naturally, it was eye-catching.

I’ve visited two other permanent jewelry shops and the technician always put a barrier (usually leather) between the bracelet and the skin because a spark is used to weld it. That wasn’t done at this location which was disappointing. I let Cantara know she should expect more safety precautions if she decides to go again elsewhere. Besides that, it was a good experience overall and the owner was patient with us and also had reasonable prices.

With the morning activity crossed out, we set out for a light bite from a nearby recommended coffee shop. Hot beverages and unusual pastries in hand, we sat in the sun at our leisure until it was time to explore more of East Bayside. The street art was a pleasant surprise! I recall reading a post where the author advised against exploring East Bayside but it was missed on me as to why.


Our route this day took us from East Bayside to Bayside to Downtown to East End back to West End. We brunched at Ocotillo before returning to Downtown for the sunset lighthouse tour by Windjammer. IT WAS COLD OUT ON THE WATER and the views were quite nice. We were able to bring beverages and food on board, too. At one moment, while near the Great Diamond Island, we noticed a funky occurrence in the sky: there seemed to be two vertical small rainbows – each on the side of the sun. For dinner, Gilbert’s Chowder House was our pick and this place was packed! We came at a great time because there was a table for two available with our names on it.

October 3rd – Fort Williams Park

This morning was a slow start with leftovers for brekkie. As we approached the Portland Art Museum, there was a crowd of women on the corner promoting peace while playing upbeat music. A little while later, on the same corner, was a man holding a sign expressing ridicule of the current US president. We spent a couple at the museum – naturally, there were a few surprises sprinkled throughout if you looked close enough.


With it being our last day, we saved the iconic lighthouse as the cherry on top. I made every effort to have us dropped off away from the lighthouse but, nope! Our Lyft driver dropped us off right. at. the. lighthouse. Now, if you know a thing or two about large buildings and monuments, you can’t really see it if you’re standing right in front. Nevertheless, I’m sure he meant well. We took in various views of the lighthouse and waves crashing along the rocks. Shortly after, we moseyed along a trail until it led us back to where we started.

Though the park is called “Fort Williams” it didn’t resonate with me that it was created to defend the harbor until I read the plaques about the area (specifically Battery Blair). At the battery, there were two guns built within concrete with the ability to retract and hide from the enemy’s line of sight.

The Goddard Mansion was in the area but we didn’t get a chance to check it out. Here’s a list of a few more things I’d definitely add to my list if I were to return to Portland, Maine:

A few things we missed:

  • Holy Donut
  • Oysters
  • Sunset on the rooftop at Luna Bar
  • Portland Observatory
  • Goddard Mansion

Côte d’Azur (french riviera)

Nice

As recommended by most, Nice was the base during our vacation. Navigating the city was fairly easy, overall. Bakeries, bus stops, and markets were plenty and easily accessible. More time was spent in Nice than originally planned because we ended up splitting our days into two: the first half was used to explore another village and the second half was taken in Nice. Somehow, the trip felt like it lasted so much longer by doing this! Most of the time, we’d take a nap midday to recharge for a dip in the ocean.

If you’ve learned you’re not entirely big on French food, no problem! I came across a variety of cuisines while exploring. I’m not sure if the south of France is known for a specific style of food (I could’ve done better research) but we definitely tried different things at each restaurant we chose. I would recommend learning basic food names and known allergies before visiting to make life a little easier.

There were no shortages of souvenir, gift, and chocolate shops! On one of our evenings closer to the end of the trip, we did some shopping for our family and then went to the beach (there was NO way we’d hike all the way back to the Airbnb). We had our stuff covered while enjoying the warm water though I never suspected someone would come over to take our goods; I’m just used to hiding my belongings in public.

Villefranche-sur-Mer

On the first full day, we went to Villefranche-sur-Mer (VsM). The area we visited was walkable though some of the sidewalks were fairly narrow. The only reason I noticed was because I had a 10-year-old to look after who kept stepping in the street 🙂 Quiet yet active is how I would describe VsM. Some people were enjoying the water not too far from the marina. I saw a variety of water activities like swimming, snorkeling, and paddle boarding. Ohhh, how I wish we bought our bathing suits! While meandering about, we came across the citadel and checked out a display of beautifully blown glass. I recommend going to the top if you haven’t succumbed to fatigue because you’ll get a lovely panoramic view and it’s worth it!

Gelato and time in the shade was how we cooled down after getting cooked in the sun. It was consumed in a matter of seconds. We did return to VsM after a couple days because our speedboat tour had this town as a pitstop and we spent our free time grabbing brekkie by the water.

Antibes

From the station, we took a 20-minute walk down to the beach. Front and center on the beach is a historic monument called Le Fort Carré. Public bathrooms can be found built into the walls… and I’ll tell you this… I won’t complain about another public restroom in North Carolina again. And that’s all I shall share. We picked our spot in the sand and got settled. It seemed generally acceptable to be at the beach topless (no matter what beach we went to during our trip). It’s something my little brother had to get used to and I really hoped this experience helped to combat the sexualization of women’s bodies, that is bombarded all over the media.

Another thing I noticed was most beaches we visited were of stone but this one was sand! Well… Kind of half-and-half: where the towels were laid out on the beach, there is sand but as you approach and enter the water, there is stone. I’m so glad we had water shoes! The water felt amazing and it was calm! Nasir turned into a fish and it seemed he didn’t want to leave.

After a while, something unfortunate happened. Someone was walking their dog at the top of the fortress, and the dog stepped up on the edge and fell over. I only saw the aftermath: the dog was whimpering on his side struggling to get up. I was in shock. It was sad to see, but I think the dog survived with a few injuries. Locals took him over to a first aid booth nearby.

When we were ready to leave, we went to Les Filles du Micocoulier for brekkie. Nasir seemed to like his breakfast, but I was not happy with mine. In fact, I wasn’t happy with most of my meals because they lacked flavor.

We took many photos, walked around the area, and came across the Marché Provençal. I highly recommend coming here early to avoid crowds because it was a little overwhelming; there was so much to see and an equal amount of people present.

Èze

We first saw the commune of Èze during our speedboat tour. It’s a small village that sits on top of a hill over 2000 feet above sea level. Fairytales were inspired by places like this one – I’m convinced. The place was mesmerizing! I will say make sure to pack multiple bottles of water and go early in the day because walking around this area is quite the workout and it’s even more intense if you go during the summertime like we did. It’s also highly recommended to go earlier to get photos without the background noise. Our first stop was to get food! Nasir ordered a large burger with fries and ate everything and I had a banana crêpe with Nutella. We also watched some of the Olympics while we were there and we took our time because we knew we’d be working out! This place was mainly a photo opp. I actually recommend coming here for souvenirs over Nice because the crafts were of higher quality and didn’t wreak of mass production.

Monaco

Such a beautiful place to simply walk around. Everywhere I turned, I found myself in awe of the cityscape. Our first stop was the Prince’s Palace. They gave us headphones and something of a radio where you could select a button and it would give you information on the corresponding room. Though, I found the experience somewhat interesting. I don’t recommend bringing kids unless they are thrilled about history and architecture. Even then, the excitement is likely to dwindle prematurely. After leaving, we went to the restaurant nearby and got lunch for Nasir. This is also where I got bit multiple times by mosquitoes and chased by bees. The food was amazing (the best I had during the trip!) but I suffered. We continued on foot towards the oceanographic museum. This place had so much to offer! You need at least two hours to take everything in. Before leaving Monaco, we had our last dance with gelato.


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san Diego, ca

Mission Bay Park / Mission Beach

First trip to the west coast and all I wanted to see was whales. The tour guide was knowledgeable and shared many fun facts about all the creatures we saw from the moment we left the dock. It’s easy to get seasick out there, but they offered something you can put on your wrist (I forget the name of it) that’s supposed to help. We didn’t get to see the majestic beasts but there were plenty of dolphins riding the waves from the boat. I was so happy to see them and equally glad they stuck around for a while.

I returned to Missions a few days later to play beach volleyball. The group I was invited to play with was welcoming, encouraging, and fun! I was nervous at first because I didn’t want to mess up and I know people can be very competitive, so I just didn’t want to throw the game off. Ultimately, I was worried for nothing because I played better than I expected!

La Jolla

Hiking the natural reserve was such a sweet treat because I didn’t know what to expect from the views. My friend, Curtis, invited me out for a hike so I didn’t look up the Google images; I just went with the flow. I’m big on scenery. It’s one of the things that help me decide where I want to go for vacation. As the hike progressed, it became painfully obvious I was a tourist. So many “ooo’s” and “ahh’s” and plenty of photography. Sometimes I would just stop and stare because it was gorgeous! Taking in where the cliffs meet the ocean was long overdue.

Mount Soledad was the next stop. The atmosphere was peaceful and solemn as it was a memorial for fallen soldiers. At the top, you’re able to get a 360-degree view of the city below. On this day, we were able to see the huge blanket of fog covering the beach. There was also an ice cream truck nearby. It’s definitely a place one would come to clear their mind or to have a heart-to-heart conversation.

Little Italy

Looking back, I wish I spent a little extra time here to bar-hop and see more of the area. One of the places I did check out was Underbelly for their ramen. I am pretty sure I saw it in a TikTok video (that’s how I’ve been doing my research these days on what to eat and where to go). This was my first time having real ramen! And the experience really set the standard. My food was amazing. I was slurping and had no shame. Zero remorse.

I ordered beef bao buns, which were also tasty but definitely unnecessary because the ramen was quite filling.

Balboa Park

My eyes were pleased, and though I only spent a couple hours here looking around and taking in the greenery and architecture, I could easily see myself, grabbing a blanket and laying out in the park with great company and a basket of fruit. The park was beautiful and the weather was perfect. There was a plaza full of people where the energy was high, but there were so many areas in the park that were calm and quiet.

Coronado Beach

I went midday during the week instead of the weekend, hoping to avoid crowds, and I got exactly what I wanted. The sun was out, and there was plenty of space on the beach. The tide was low and the water was definitely cold. Unfortunately, I couldn’t frolic the way I imagined so I spent more time frying. Once I figured I had enough, it was time to take a stroll, check out different shops, and pick up some postcards. If I were to visit San Diego again with the desire to only relax, this area would be my base. Nevertheless, I definitely felt the need to explore because this is my first time here on the West Coast! The trip was a success. I’d love to return.

taking it easy in Savannah – the hostess city

May 26th

After waking up with a large hood of an Alfa Romeo above my head, I decided it was time to rent a bike and explore downtown. I grabbed my shower items, hopped over to the shared bathroom, and took my precious time because this is a vacation.

I left the main house, went downstairs through the gate and found where the bikes, helmets, and waiver were set up. After filling out the consent form, I sent $10 via Venmo to rent the bike for the day (great price, no?). Before hitting the street, I took a couple of practice rides in a seemingly discreet area. Hopefully, there were no witnesses.

Full transparency! I was a little nervous, but I knew this is how I wanted to explore the city. Once I became comfortable, I peddled my way down Whitaker Street. It was about 70° outside but the sun was hiding and there was a breeze going (without the bike ride) but I was working up the warmth I needed.

I was en route to Collins Quarter (about 12 minutes away), which I heard a lot about on social media. It’s known as a good spot for brunch! Once I arrived, I was promptly seated outdoors. I ordered the Bubble and Squeak which I thought was the cutest name for a dish, but also kind of strange 🙂 My dish was vibrant and caught the eyes of a few by-passers. I also ordered a turmeric latte to knock off the chill.

When breakfast was through, I decided to push on and explore more of the area. I checked out a few gift shops to find a cute (and reasonably priced sweater) because I was chilly! Also, I wanted a small memento from Savannah. I saw the famous girl waving statue and the “bridge of love” with the locks. I was riding my bike all over the area and I finally made my way to the JW Marriott Riverside Plant – the place was breathtaking. I could see why someone would have their wedding reception in that location because it was gorgeous.

After seeing all that I could (gemstones, fossils, skeletons, artwork, mini shops), I decided to go to the rooftop bar called Electric Moon. I ordered the High Beam cocktail (loved it) and some mini quesadillas (not for sharing).

People-watching was my source of entertainment as I finished my food. The ambiance was nice and high energy but I came late afternoon before 5:00 PM so there weren’t many people present. Wanting to make the most of it, I grabbed my cocktail and I found the slide that takes you outdoors to the terrace downstairs. This area is where the real fun is supposed to happen! I looked around and noticed a few small pockets of people and everyone seemed pretty cozy and locked in. I checked out a few life-sized games and then headed out. From there, I made my way back to the Airbnb and called a Lyft to take me about 15 minutes down the road to a nail salon. One of my nails broke upon my arrival and I refused to walk around like that during my “me-time” 🙂

My day ended with Netflix and subpar takeout from Fire Street Food. I ordered the teriyaki tofu with steamed rice… my tofu had a burnt aftertaste. Sadness.

May 27th

Up and at ‘em again but with a steady downpour, so no bike riding for me. I figured I’d start the day off with the SCAD museum. My favorite part was the glass-blown light fixtures. The pieces were so vibrant. It took about 35  minutes to go through the whole museum… I was a little disappointed because of how small it was… I had afternoon tea on my mind and saw that the Gryphon Tea Room was within walking distance so I hit the sidewalk! Not only was today wet and rainy but the temperature also dropped and I was ready to quickly get inside. My wait time was about an hour but I knew if I left for a different location, I’d be resetting the clock for the same length. I didn’t mind so much because there was a cute little sofa available and I was able to shake off the chill. There was so much to take in once I got a good look around… the room was grand with warm welcoming tones and dim lighting. Once I was seated, I eventually ordered the root vegetable salad. Because the vegetables were roasted, I thought the salad would be a warm one, but it was cold, to my dismay. I also ordered a chai latte with oat milk and a raspberry scone. I’m not sure why I just didn’t get regular afternoon tea but next time…

The Gryphon Tea Room is FILLED with antiquated books so it tracks that I would receive my bill inside of one. That made me smile (it’s the small things and I appreciate clever presentation). Did I mention that today was colder than usual? 😉 I ordered a Lyft, jumped in the car, headed back to the Airbnb and bumped up the heat.

After my nap, I figured it’d be a good idea to put something on my stomach before it got too late. There was still some light in the sky so decided to look for something close by. I was a few minutes walk away from a café called Foxy Loxy. I ordered a single vegetable taco. It was tasty (though greasy) and I regretted not ordering another. Something new I tried: a horchata latte. It had espresso in it; an interesting twist I don’t care to experience a second time.

On the way back from my evening snack, I spotted a real-life gingerbread house.
It was adorable and a nice treat for the eyes… though I craved something edible to curb my growing sweet tooth. I went to the closest gas station and grabbed a cookies and cream Hershey’s bar.

Today was won by the weather – I didn’t get to see much but I knew I’d make up for it the next day…

May 28th

A slow morning is a lovely way to start the day. I had a book club meeting at 11:30 AM, afterward, I picked out my clothes and took my time getting ready. I decided I would walk downtown instead of taking a bike or a Lyft to see more of the city’s beauty. If you know me, you know I have moments when I’m directionally challenged. I was walking the wrong way for about 10 minutes… As I noticed the city’s charm beginning to fade, I opened Google Maps and quickly pivoted to get on track. A strong five minutes into my reroute, someone in a blue Hyundai Elantra pulled up and began chatting with me. We talked for about 20 minutes before I decided it was safe and I was comfortable enough to accept the ride they offered. (dearest reader, I do not condone this behavior.) I got a mini tour of the area and some extra fun facts about Savannah. I do believe that meeting locals gives you more insight into exploring the area you’re visiting. But please be careful and less trusting than me.

The Friendly Driver dropped me close to the place I decided on for brunch: The Nest. The atmosphere was charged up and designed for lounging and socializing. The DJ outside played a great mix of music that everyone seemed to enjoy.

It took a while for my waitress to come over to me (not gonna lie, I was irritated), but when she finally took my order, she was pretty attentive. I was hard to miss, though! I was a party of one in the middle of the room so I’m not sure how that happened. Fast and Furious was playing on one of the flat screens until a man requested the golf channel which completely clashed with the whole vibe. That should not have been allowed! Anyway, I ordered the vegetable burger sliders with sweet potato fries and a mocktail (a light gingery drink). The Nest was my favorite eatery! I happily relaxed while taking in my environment and polished off each morsel.

Once the check was settled, I headed down to the river walk and began my on-foot sightseeing tour. Though I had read of Jones Street, one of the most beautiful streets in the country, I didn’t expect to come across it. Oh but when I did, I was in awe! It was absolutely dreamy and beautiful in a moody way, thanks to the overcast skies. I took my time here. It’s not often I wish for company during my solo travels but a moment like that ought to be shared.

The full walk back was about 40 minutes, and when I had maybe 15 minutes left to my commute, I was approached by a man on the street, who decided to share his whole life with me. He sipped at his beer as he shared with me the dangers of Savannah, which I thought was ironic since I was alone, and he was a complete stranger (again, dearest reader, I do not condone this). He wasn’t a threat, kept a respectable distance, and had manners.

That pretty much wrapped up my day. I took it easy for the rest of the evening because I had to leave at 12:30 AM to catch my train back home.
Would I come back to Savannah?

Absolutely.


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Pure Serendipity: Quepos, Costa Rica (incomplete)

Travel Dates: September 6th – September 10th, 2022
Rainy Season: May through November

The last few months, I just knew I would party hard once I got to Costa Rica. But by the time September came around, all I wanted to do was relax. The following is my recollection from beginning to end, as I would hate to forget a single detail from this trip.

September 6 – Arrival (gso>dfw>sjo)

We woke up not so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, around 5:00am. Personally, I was a bit tense because as a general rule of thumb, you should arrive 3 hours early for international flights (even though we had a domestic connection). The flight was scheduled to leave at 7:30am AND we had one bag to check in. Of course, the people at the check in booth attempted to chastise but I made it very clear what I needed (and did not need) that morning. Shortly after checking in, I dashed over to the TSA line where Kai was already showing his passport to the officer. Good timing, no? I swooped right in and showed mine next. I’m hustling toward the gate and Kai is taking his time, completely un-phased. He reminded me that these things “always work themselves out” and to just go with the flow. We make our way to the gate and I believe they started boarding. Kai was one group ahead of me and I told him to take my carry-on – just in case they ran out of room. Sure enough, after he scanned his boarding pass they informed the remaining passengers there was no more room in the overhead bins. Good luck? About 2 hours later, we landed in Dallas. We didn’t have much downtime as our final flight to San Jose was set to depart within an hour of our landing. I may have grabbed a croissant… we boarded our final flight and arrived in San Jose a little after 2:00pm. Once we got there, we got there, we looked for Avis but soon learned they didn’t have a representative onsite. Another company representative let us know there is a shuttle that will take us to Avis. A little dismayed, we left the building and looked for the shuttle, and viola, it was right there waiting for us! They loaded our luggage and dropped us off at Avis. Once we arrive, there were two people ahead of us in line. It took almost an hour to get some help. Kai checked our car> t h o r o u g h l y < and made notes of every single blemish he could find. For the last time, we loaded up the vehicle and began our 3-hour commute to the coast for our hotel. Please note: this was Kai’s first time driving internationally. Our shuttle drive over to Avis was the only insight we received on what to expect on the roads. The driving style isn’t exactly a “free for all” but there were many opportunities for surprise… in polite terms. Ultimately, it wasn’t as organized as what I’m used to back home but it works! It rained the whole time during our commute and at times it was quite heavy. Upon arrival, we were greeted by a friendly golf cart driver who would soon become out go-to guy. “Good friend” (because I forgot his name!) helped us park, loaded the golf cart, and dropped the bags in the hotel room while we checked in. The check-in process was smooth, overall with a couple hiccups. The incidental hold caught us off guard (for the room and the car actually) and we had to show the receptionist that our breakfast was included in the package. Good friend picked us up from the main lobby and took us to our room. Our room was at the top of a very steep hill. Kai was in the front seat of the golf cart and I was in the back. I was SUPER ANXIOUS The only thing on our mind was food and rest! We ordered dinner at the Arbol Restaurant, which was on the hotel premises, and had it delivered to our room. Mahi and risotto along with pork belly and mashed potatoes… Overall, it was C+. Thankfully, this was the only underwhelming food experience we had

September 7 – Settle In

This day was our first full day here and we took out time to decide what we wanted to do on… Our birthday! Puffy-faced and clothed in PJs, we stepped out onto our private balcony, took in the fresh air, and admired the view. Today we would take it easy. Breakfast was on my mind as dinner wasn’t very filling (nor satisfying). After freshening up, we made our way downstairs for brekkie. Fresh fruit was placed first and the juice of the day was fresh watermelon (sooo fresh). I ordered an egg white and avocado omelet. Though our breakfast was included, I was still hesitant to order all that I wanted until day three. After breakfast, I headed up the street (another massive hill but for cars, not golf carts) to pick up beverages and snacks. The idea was to save funds by having our own spirit supply… the intention was good! Local snacks were also on the list! I tried something called “tostones” which are smashed, seasoned, and cooked plained (I think fried). I regret not buying more and bringing them home. They were so tasty! The private beach demanded our presence. After stockpiling, Good Friend picked us up from the room and drove us all the way down the mountain to the beach. My ear popped a few times on our descent. Once we reached the pathway to the beach, the driver pointed out the monkeys in the trees. He shared there was once a time when a man trained them on how to steal. That one monkey taught all his friends. As you can imagine, it was a chaotic time. Aha, he said the man was arrested but I wonder how he was found…

On the beach, we lounged in the chairs for a bit, enjoyed our drinks, and listened to Sam Smith. We ventured out toward the water. The beach was composed of tiny rocks and pebbles (some, not so smooth). I found a light sage stone and asked Kai to slip it into his pocket. It would definitely make its way into my memory box. We walked along the beach until a rock formation prevented us to go further. I tested the water and felt how strong the tide was. I tried to walk a little further and my foot DROPPED. I retreated. The tide was forceful, the water was dark and I was intimidated. No thanks. I made my way back to the lounging chair and got comfy. Shortly after, my tummy began to itch and I felt little bumps. I made a swift exit to the suite for a shower. It also began to rain around this time. The rest of the day was spent lounging and taking in our environment. My favorite part of this day was the real, raw and meaningful conversation we had that evening. They say communication is key, but being able to express yourself clearly and finding the courage to express vulnerability is a feat. This was growth for me because though I can express my ideas clearly, I don’t usually do this in interpersonal relationships.

September 8 – Start High, End Low

So, the activities begin. After a full day of relaxation, it was time to get out there and experience new things! Today started with brekkie, of course, but this time, I tried something new! Pumpkin pancakes with salmon and avocado. I also ordered a ginger mango smoothie. Listen… when I tell you I was so pleased… I mean it from the bottom of my heart. The smoothies were also requested again, later on. After filling our tummies, we gathered the necessities and waited to get picked up for our first event: parasailing. This is something I’ve never done before. It always seemed rather peaceful but still daring. I headed over to the booth set up on the beach to check-in. We’d opted for the 15-minute ride (at the time I thought this was too short), pictures and video. We lounged on the beach until they were ready to get us set up. I stepped into my harness and the lad was letting me know what to expect/ She said everything would be a smooth process from going up into the air, to landing in the water. She said this twice and I trusted her. They hooked us up to the parachute and sure enough, as the boat went further on the water, the parachute began to lift and pull. Everything seemed to happen within 4 seconds. I was walking, then running, and yanked into the air! The beginning was quite abrupt but everything afterward was calm and beautiful. The weather was perfect and the greenish-blue water was sparkling from our view as we gained altitude. I was awestruck! I began to feel more anxious after realizing just how high up we were. I anticipated a sudden drop and this is what made me tense. The woman who strapped me in never mentioned said drop but I convinced myself it was going to happen because of the abrupt start. I said a prayer and tried to remain calm. Kai later revealed to me that my worry began to make his stomach hurt. As the boat turned around to head back, I was eagerly waiting for our landing in the water. The drone came back around and recorded the end of our flight. When we landed in the water, there was a jetski waiting for us. Mounting it may have caused a bruise. We walked around a bit while waiting for the pictures and videos to process. Kai was offered weed a few times… *crickets*. They airdropped us the media and we headed back to Makanda and went straight for the brand new saltwater infinity pool (that opened upon our arrival!). The water was cold. Kai got some photos by the edge and I stayed by the bar to order a pina colada (YUM). I hopped in the jacuzzi for a few and left to sunbathe. When the sun grew too intense, we left for the main pool for a change of scenery. We were in and out of the water until the rain began for the day. Back in the room, I spent an unusual amount of quality time with the garden tub in the middle of the bathroom until it was to leave for Emilios Cafe for dinner.

I am pretty sure we got a taxi to pick us up and take us to the restaurant. It was raining and we were in full rain gear from head to toe, but it wasn’t pouring like it was before. As soon as you walk in, we are welcome with the fun artwork, and there was plenty to find after being seated and taking in the surroundings. This location was artsy, eclectic, and had an open atmosphere. Like most of the restaurants that we went to, you weren’t separated from nature. The tone was relaxed the customer demographics were the most diverse I’d seen during my visit. The menu did not leave me wanting as there were so many options. Of course, I wanted to try something new. There was an octopus and potato starter. Reluctantly, Kai agreed. I was the first to sample it! The flavor was almost a hit but the texture was a huge miss for me. I had charbroiled octopus before and enjoyed it but I don’t believe it was cooked the same. It felt like gum. I held it in my mouth and pushed it to the side as I encouraged Kai to give it a go. He too was dissatisfied. We spit it out. Our main meal touched the table, soon after.

September 9 – Nothing but Adrenaline

Waterfall tour

September 10 – Farewell

Departure


Hi. It saddens me that I didn’t get to finish this as intended. This account deserved completion but I let it sit for too long and I no longer feel moved to reflect. I had amazing memories in a new country with a pretty great guy. In December 2022, we decided it was best for us to dissolve our relationship. The memories live on! In the spirit of reflection, be very careful of the company you keep while on vacation. I feel blessed to hold absolutely no resentment towards a former partner. I want to keep these memories… but if I had chosen wrong or gone on this trip with another, perhaps I wouldn’t feel the same. I will always be an advocate for solo trips unless you’re going with a long-time friend or lover ;).


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Kenya, It’s Nice to Meet You | 2022

Finally! I made my way to the motherland. I’ve been meaning to come the last few years, but I was never able to make it work (usually due to work). I’m so glad I was able to come this time around. Let’s dive right into the trip highlights while everything is fresh on my mind!

Mombasa

Boat Ride

10 of us boarded onto the boat with the help of a couple sailors. Once we got on, we equipped ourselves with damp life vests. We rode the bumpy waves for about 15 minutes Until we found our spot in the ocean. You could still see the beach, which was comforting. The two men manning the boat anchored it and attach the ladder to the side. The boat rocked eagerly, and hesitation settled among most of us. But Moko was the first one to jump into the water! Witnessing his survival gave us all the greenlight to proceed (ha). I was still contemplating whether or not I was going to get in the water because the waves seemed much higher further out compared to on the actual beach. I began to feel more at ease when more of us got into the water. My sister was the true catalyst– this woman is brave. She wanted to jump off the side of the boat! She was a little nervous, but she definitely was going to do it and I wanted to do it with her. Cantara’s boldness is contagious. We took a few pictures (of course) then we sat on the ledge and hopped off! It was thrilling. The water was the saltiest water I have ever tasted but, oh! did it felt amazing! I quickly found my way up the latter deep, dark water makes me anxious. Plus, I have to remind you, the waves were high! I had a crazy idea of wanting to jump from the top of the boat and my sister wanted to do the same. However, as soon as I got to the top, I lost all of my courage. It took about 10 minutes of false starting before I could gain my composure to do it. I grabbed my sister‘s hand, we count to three, took a step and jumped from the top of the boat! This had to be the most freeing feeling I felt all year… I was so glad to have shared it with her because I was absolutely scared out of my mind. Honestly, it wasn’t that high up, but it felt insane to me at the time. My heart is full and I’m happy we shared that moment together.

Haller Park

This was an activity I tried to get out of, mainly because I wanted to rest. I wasn’t excited to see zoo animals after so much traveling (multiple planes, cars, vans and trains). I tried to stay home to rest a little bit, but I was encouraged to do otherwise. I’m glad they were successful because when we arrived to the park, I saw a huge tortoise and became so excited to see what else was in store. I saw all kinds of creatures. I never saw a millipede in person and so close (cool, but gross)! I also got to touch and interact with the tortoise. My sister got pretty close to a blue-ball monkey (scientific name?). I saw different species of crocodiles, warthogs, snakes, giraffes and gazelles. My absolute favorite was the palm garden. I was I could have spent more time there, lounging and taking in the sights. This is actually one of the first things you see when you enter, and it’s towards the left. It looked so dreamy, lush, and otherworldly. The simple things always catch my attention the most. Though I love animals, I would’ve really enjoyed sitting in that garden just to read and write. It was quite rainy that day and I enjoyed the down pour. I do love a good shower.

Sunrise

Did we wake up at 4:30am to catch the sunrise? Possibly. I can’t recall exactly how early we woke up but it was not easy! Three of us jumped in the car and headed for the beach to enjoy the sunrise. We were worried that we were missing it in the beginning but when we got there, we saw such beautiful colors. It was as if we witnessed two sunrises at once. When we got to the beach there was a soft orange yellow and grayish blue tints in the sky where the first rays of the sun had touched the earth. It’s the first golden hour of the day. It was quite beautiful; it looked like the sky was on fire as the sunrise progressed. Oddly enough, it didn’t continue to get brighter. Instead, it mellowed out and got darker and then regular daylight began to show… This is when you can actually see the sun through the clouds. It sounds counterintuitive. I’ll show pictures of the sunrise as it happened.

Nairobi

Braiding

My sister had an appointment to get her hair braided and I decided to join her. How can you not get your hair braided in the motherland? My sister opted for goddess knotless braids, and I got regular extra-long knotless braids in the color #30. We both tried something different. They began with removing my large box braids and followed up with a shampoo, conditioner and blow dried my hair right after. Shortly after, the braiding began. I have to say I kind of messed up a little bit because the lady was starting my hair and I noticed the braids would stop right at my chest. I did ask for extra-long braids. I wanted them to be double that length, but I wasn’t sure if there was another process to it of which I wasn’t aware. She was about seven braids in before I realized was going on. Another lady asked if I wanted them longer and I said yes. I felt really bad for letting her do all that work without saying anything… This is a personal reminder to myself to always speak up! I’m still working on this at my big age. At least a whole section wasn’t completed before we pivoted. She reworked those braids and added extra length. Overall, it took about 4 1/2 hours all the way through from the beginning to the end. I was under the impression that knotless braids aren’t tight, but boy was I wrong! The braids looked and felt amazing they last six weeks before I took them out

Art Gallery

The art gallery I visited is called “One Off Contemporary Art Gallery”. The main building was a two-story earthy hut from a fairytale. There were also peacocks walking around. I saw beautiful sculptures, both of wood and stone. I saw small figurines, large beautiful, feminine paintings as well as smaller prints. There were so many works of art that there was not enough space to display them correctly. The top floor had an overwhelming selection, it was impossible to go through half of them in the amount of time we had. I was only able to see all the items on display downstairs. Now… if I had known how captivated I’d become with one particular painting, I would have squirreled some funs aside to purchase the original. I suppose all things happen for a reason. The original piece was already marked as sold… and my heart was a little heavy.

Getting Sick

The last monumental experience of my stay in Kenya… was me getting sick. To this day I’m not sure what I had. Maybe it was some kind of respiratory infection… I have no clue. I just know everyone in my traveling group was getting sick with something and it finally made its way to me. I felt myself coming down with it about two or three days before I was supposed to get on a flight to go to Cindy‘s village. The day before my flight I had so much pressure in my head and face that I knew flying would be unbearable. Unfortunately, I had to stay behind. I stayed with Moko‘s cousin, Kanyi, and I was so thankful that her family was open to take me in, an unexpected stranger. They did so with such grace and amazing hospitality for which I am forever grateful. I had a lot of tea (referred to as “bawa” meaning medicine) by a company called Just Breathe. The main ingredients were garlic, ginger and cardamom along with other herbs and spice. The same company has steaming leaves that you add to hot water. The steaming was a little difficult for me because it was almost like suffocating but most of that was in my head. I really had to focus. I came up for fresh air every once in a while. The fresh menthol feeling seemed to burn the germs in my nasal passage. Between drinking the tea and steaming, I began feeling better within two days. I was almost 100% after day three. In all honesty, if I had to get sick again… I’d choose to relive this experience. Sounds strange, right? Never thought I’d type those words out, aha.


I want to give a special thanks to my family for extending the invitation (consistently, too) and making me feel so welcomed. I can’t begin to explain how much this trip has meant to me. It’s my wish and intention to create more of these memories together whether abroad or right here at home, in NC.

Thank you, so much ❤


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Dragging My Feet in Naples, Italy | May 2022

First things first: my disclaimer.

Originally, I wanted to travel somewhere in southern France to sunbathe by a beach near some rocky cliff. I was reminded on different occasions how the French do not like Americans and I realized (even if this wasn’t true) I didn’t want experience it in the slightest. I directed my attention to Italy. I imagined Sicily would have been perfect for relaxation and solitude. This was supposed to be a “do nothing” kind of vacation. Only the bare minimum so I could reset. But then I wondered when I’d come back to Europe and my plans completely went haywire. I was trying to figure out how many cities I can see within five days. I started out with six. Which dwindled down to four… then eventually one. Somehow, someway I landed in Naples. I was aiming for warmth and rich culture but Naples didn’t really scream “rest and restore”.

Nevertheless, I still found  a few things to help me enjoy my time there.

Pizza Making

This is the first Airbnb Experience I signed up for! I was a bit hesitant at first but I thought “what could go wrong?”. I walked about 11 minutes from my Airbnb to the meeting point. I was pleased it wasn’t too far away. Everyone waited about 20 minutes before our host appeared. There had to be a total of 15 people in attendance. My group consisted of five people including myself for the English tutorial.  We learned about the history of pizza and the ingredients used. Our host was pretty clever and he made sure we were paying attention. Everyone paired up to get hands on for the dough making process. I was paired with a woman from California. I wish I was solo; that’s the one thing I regret about this. Forced conversation makes me cringe and I imagine she felt the same way. After we made the dough, we placed it in a tray for tomorrow’s group to use (which means we would use the dough that was created yesterday). Before we began the second phase, we enjoyed a couple appetizers: bruschetta and arancini. I had a huge appetite at this point and the arancini was new to me and tasted amazing! Once we were finished we started to form our dough into pizzas. We added tomato sauce, fresh mozzarella and basil. We all got place out pizzas in the brick oven. Now, when I tell you it was hot… I mean it was unbelievably sweltering. I’m 100% sure us being back there was a safety hazard. Nevertheless, I was glad I got to experience this.

Oh! And my pizza turned out perfect. It was the prettiest pizza of them all.
 

I still had plenty of day left over after my pizza making was complete. I figured  I would head back to my Airbnb so that I could rest a little bit but on my way there I was stopped. A man, maybe seven years my senior with cute round glasses and curly hair towered over me. He asked me if I needed help and if I was lost. I said no that I knew where I was going and he asked me what I was holding in my hand. I felt wary (you can’t ever be too careful)  so I took a small step back. I showed him that I just finished a pizza making class and I realized how naïve I was. I pretty much just told this man that I’m a tourist. I took another step back. He looked at my certificate and expressed  what appeared to be genuine congratulations to me. That made me smile. I’m not sure if he was teasing. He asked for my name and where I was from. He offered to help me find my Airbnb but I said it’s OK and reminded him I know how to get back. He offered to grab a cup of coffee and I thought that was so sweet. But I was not comfortable doing so. I think you can never be too careful. This person did nothing alarming. I was either a bit paranoid or I sensed that something just wasn’t right. He let me know that he thought I was cute and he wished me a great time in Italy. I express my gratitude and I wished him farewell.

Let’s assume he wasn’t a bad guy? The way he approached me and started conversation felt different from what I’m use to back at home. There’s usually a feeling of dread if a man is coming toward me with interest. The conversation isn’t as organic at home. I didn’t endure cat calling and this man wasn’t undressing me with his eyes. The approach and light conversation was just easy. Don’t get me wrong, he could easily have been a wolf in sheep’s clothing. But I expect to be approached by wolves more times than not.

Street Food Tour

Before we dive into this, I need you to have low expectations regarding my memory.  I did not remember the names of everything I tried during this tour but I can show you pictures and perhaps you can remind me what I sampled? Overall, the food tour was a nice experience because not only did we get to try local food but our guide also showed us different landmarks in the area so the tour was a 2-in-1. The first thing I tried was fresh mozzarella that came from a buffalo. The mozzarella was wet and did not have any flavor. The second thing we sampled was pizza. The first pizza ever made and “wallet pizza“. Now, the first pizza was the same as the pizza I made the day before. Which I wasn’t entirely crazy about. I love American pizza. The wallet pizza was interesting… I believe it was mozzarella and ricotta cheese but the whole thing was fried. Something Americans know plenty about 🙂 The concept was interesting but I didn’t finish it because it was bland. The next thing we tried was the star from yesterday! Arancini. It was pasta with cheese and meat balled up with the crust around it and fried and it was so savory and just absolutely amazing. I am salivating right now thinking about it. It was the best thing I tasted while I was in Italy. Our next stop was for desserts. The first item was something like a rum cake it was quite light in flavor despite its appearance. The second item was a flaky kind of cake with powdered sugar on it. I expected that to be richer but this was also fairly light. I was pleased to have a dessert that wasn’t over powering me with sugar. However, I learned all the sugar I was expecting in the cakes was very much present in the limoncello shots. Those things were outrageously sweet and strong! I decided not to finish mine.

Now the last night was a surprise for me because I do not remember reading this in the itinerary. We made our way over to a gelato shop and I was able to order my affogato. This is my favorite dessert and one of few ways I’ll consume coffee. I loved watching it being made I was highly pleased with this being my nightcap. The tour continued on but I had to walk back to my Airbnb by myself and I didn’t want it to be too dark so I went ahead and I left for the evening.

Boat Tour

Looking back I probably wouldn’t have done this again but I’ll share why I enjoyed this experience, first. I got to sail a boat all on my own! Well… kind of. The sailor was still there keeping an eye out but I did learn how to sail or at least learned how to keep the boat in the right direction. And the view was so beautiful. The water was gorgeous and the geography right by the water was breathtaking it was a beautiful day! The sun was out and there was hardly a cloud in the sky. (I have an awkward tan on my ankles to prove it).

I never sailed a boat before! The only thing that would’ve made it better was if I was either completely on my own or had a friend with me because it was just me and the sailor out on the water. And that’s just not something that I would encourage women who travels alone to do. I was never in danger there were moments of discomfort and a little bit of awkwardness  but at the end the day it wasn’t horrible. I can tell that the sailor was very comfortable talking a certain way with women and that part is what made it 2.5 star experience. Also I got a little seasick on our way back because we were going against the wave so we were rocking more. Also the sailor hit someone else’s boat as we were docking back in so that was awkward but other than that I had a pretty decent time out there on the water.

All in all, I did challenge myself by coming out here. I’m not sure if I would choose to go on this vacation again if I had a chance to do it over just because I was in a weird headspace and I would’ve rather relaxed by the beach near a beautiful view instead of in Naples but that doesn’t mean that the city doesn’t have much to offer it just means that I didn’t plan this out the right way and that Naples isn’t really for me. But that’s just something I’ve learned–  every vacation isn’t going to be outstanding but you can still take away good moments.


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Hello Arizona – First Time Out West

It’s been a while since I made a trip post. Hopefully, I can find a way to shake off the rust starting with this trip to Arizona – my first of the year (:

I went from January 4th to the 8th. My flight was an early one. I learned that if a seat upgrade is more affordable than the luggage fee, you may as well treat yourself a little bit and save your coin. I flew from Raleigh to Atlanta to Phoenix. The last leg was about a five-hour flight. I was disappointed in the meal, but I loved my flight attendant; she was quirky and sweet. Upon arriving to the Phoenix airport, you can see the mountains in the background, and they were huge! This is my first time, mind you, on the West Coast so I hadn’t seen anything like this in person. I was excited to discover the landscape. No time was wasted after checking into the Villa – I headed straight over to the Sonoran Jeep Desert Sunset Tour. The tour guide was quite knowledgeable, and the facts were fun. I’m much more of a visual consumer than I am auditory, so I kind of got burnt out listening to him talk. 60° in Arizona felt like 30° in North Carolina. I learned that it’s because there’s no humidity in the air making the atmosphere less cozy. So, it was really only comfortable in the sun. I wish I had on a toboggan, scarf and gloves but I made it work. I was very hungry and quite tired by the end of the event. I went to a steakhouse nearby called Prescott. Nice ambience but not the kind of place you wanna go without being a little dressed up.

During this trip, I noticed I actually like to work out during the day, preferably min-morning. I enjoy going and being consistent but when I’m home, work gets in the way. But if there’s a facility two minutes away from me (walking distance) then I’m there! The following day, I went to the gym, grabbed breakfast at First Watch (which was amazing, I love eating there) and then I hit the road for Sedona which was about 2 1/2 hours away from Scottsdale. Let me tell you… I had every intention on planning what hiking trails to go on but it just did not work out for me. I struggle-planned a lot of what I got to do in Sedona. That’s my biggest regret with this trip. That city is so beautiful, and I only got to see a very small fraction of it by accident. I also did not have proper hiking gear besides my boots. Next time, I’ll join a hiking group that way, I’ll be around more experienced people and get to see more. Nevertheless, I made it work! I got to hike along Boynton Canyon and checked out the sunset at the Airport Mesa. Upon my descent, I noticed one parking spot opened up for a highly popular viewpoint. Quickly, I pulled in switched my boots and climbed to the top. There was a soft dark glow in the sky and the lights from the city below gave a soft glimmer. At this point, my hunger was rather demanding. Earlier, I chose which restaurant I wanted dine at, but I changed mind. I’m so happy with what I chose! The restaurant is called las Tortas Fuego, and it was DELICIOUS.

The next day I had to work remotely. It was nice working in a different location while still being productive. During my lunch break, I worked out for 30 minutes then headed to In-N-Out Burger for my first time! People have said before that it wasn’t worth the hype but I thought it was pretty tasty. Somehow, someway the fast food tasted clean. I thought they were quality burgers and fries. I went back to work and by the time I was off it was 3:30 PM (EST). I had a lot of time to spend. Why not spend it at the Biltmore Square Fashion Mall? I have a newfound adoration for Burberry and decided to b-lined to Sunglass Hut to find my new fixation. I ended up buying them the next day when I was in Phoenix.  Shopping in different cities is fun even if you go to the same stores you have at home. The location and memories are attached to the item you purchased and it ends up being meaningful. While I was at Sunglass Hut, I hopped over to the fragrance bar at Macy’s. I sprayed a piece of paper with the YSL Libre Intense and fell in love. I kept that little piece of paper for a few days just to make sure I really loved the scent. The next spot I wanted to check out was the Desert Botanical Garden but by the time I arrived I was too late for the last admission block. I looked up what else I could do in the area and there was a comedy show going on. The comedian was Keon Polee and he was someone I used to follow on Instagram. I skipped over to the venue, I was seated, order my food and got my laughs in.

Friday was my last full day and I was determined to enjoy myself as much as possible. It’s so funny because during a majority of my trip I kept going back-and-forth about whether or not I wanted to get my nails done. I had chipped neutral polish on my nails so it wasn’t obvious, but I could tell they needed some TLC. I eventually opted to get them done. After work, I googled a highly rated nail salon near me and I came across a Plush Nail Bar. I showed my nail tech a picture of what I wanted. He understood the assignment! He executed my very specific request and I fell in love with my baby French manicure it was so cute he did an amazing job. I cannot hype him up enough. After I got my nails done, your girl was hungry. I went right back to First Watch and ordered one large blueberry pancake with a side of chicken sausage patties (which are bomb). I was catching up on Euphoria while I was waiting for my food. I spent 30 minutes in the gym and then I got ready to check out the Botanical Desert Garden. The weather was perfect. The flowers, the views, the variety of cacti, all of it was amazing to see and was so informative. I didn’t know there was an aloe vera plant that grows on a tree. I think it’s called aloe vera majesty. I checked out the whole garden and stopped in the gift shop to pick up a couple of items. I still had some day left and I read somewhere that the Scottsdale Fashion Square Mall was the largest mall in Arizona. I certainly got lost while trying to exit. It would have been nice to go with a friend (I was a bit overwhelmed). They had high-end designer stores as well as your shops for everyday clothing… aha. I suppose that can be the same thing depending on your lifestyle. I was famished when I left so I didn’t put thought into dinner. I went back to In-N-Out and ordered a double-double with my fries then called it a night. A part of me feels a little bad that I went to the same place twice to eat. But it was still kind of new to me, so I didn’t mind.

That about wraps up my experience in Arizona. I imagine I’d like the weather during Spring and Autumn; the temperature may be ideal for me. I liked going during the winter because it was definitely warmer compared to North Carolina but only if you’re standing in the sun. I did not like standing in the shade even if it was 60° because it felt so cold.

Anyway, the state was beautiful and I’d love the opportunity to come back.


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Vibing Out in Chi-Town

You do you know this is my favorite city, right? I’m very much OK with going back every year. 🙂

The trip got off to a rough start because I was running late to the airport (I was trying to deposit some funds but the two ATMs I went to are not working). But everything worked out. When I arrived, I looked up prices Uber and Lyft. Initially, they were about $50 but when I was ready to secure a trip, they jumped to $75. I was appalled. I paid about 65 bucks for a taxi and I spent over an hour in traffic even though the hotel was 12 miles away. This was my first time experiencing Chicago traffic.

I was very hungry when I arrived, I was hungry when I waited in traffic, I was hungry when I check in and I was hungry when I waited for an elevator up to my room. I stayed at the Warwick Hotel on Magnificent Mile (Michigan Ave.) There was a wedding reception taking place that day which is why it was so busy. While I was struggling to wait patiently for my turn on the elevator I made acquaintance with a couple who was waiting behind me and we ended up meeting a few times during my stay. Once I got settled, decided I would go find food immediately. The last time I was in the city, I kept seeing a restaurant called Wow Bao and it was the first thing that popped up when I searched for food so I made a beeline straight there. I got the food, rushed back to the hotel, got cozy and ate while watching Family Guy. I would stay at this hotel again because it was in an amazing spot and everything was within walking. That evening ,I had plans to go see Hasan Minhaj at the Chicago theater. I took on the scenery while walking there. The line was unreal but once they finally open the doors it moved rather quickly the show started an hour after the expected time but it was worth it. This man was brilliant and very funny.

After the show got out, I longed to return to the hotel and call it a night. But, the people I met while checking in invited me out to go barhopping. A part of me just wanted to rest and the other part really wanted to make the most of my vacation so I got over myself and decided to meet in the lobby. We ended up going to a bar called Streeters Tavern. We had some drinks and played beer pong — it was a good vibe. The three of us witnessed a bit of drama as we were leaving and we wanted to stick around a little bit just to make sure nothing bad happened. Eventually, it was deescalated.

The next day, I got a late start. Unfortunately, I spent a lot of time inside during the morning while I waited until the people I met were ready for the day. My objective was to be less dependent on other people and explore on my own– I’m working on that. I’m glad I met them because they added value to my trip, though I am still learning how to navigate completely by myself. I knew it would rain and I still wanted to wear the outfit I packed (it was cute!). The outfit would have been perfect if we didn’t keep trying to go different restaurants without a reservation. I had to walk far and the heels were not comfortable after a while. And then it start to rain. But ya girl brought her cute dark green raincoat, so I was all set! After that, I wanted to take a nap. The plan for the night was to check out another comedy event (but I didn’t plan on that one: the couple invited me out). I reached out to one of my friends who went to the same college as I and he agreed to come. We all went out for dinner. The vibe was chill, friendly and welcoming. We hopped over to the Laugh Factory for the evening and got to check out a handful of comedians with different humor styles. Some jokes were just dark but other comedians had the laughs coming nonstop. After that, we all went our separate ways: my friend Anthony went back home and the couple continued their night. I had to go back to the hotel because I had to wake up early for my flight back home. :/

Of course,  I wanted to stay longer but I’m glad I got to check it out before it got too cold. It’s likely I’ll return to Chicago for another solo trip and check out some touristy things.

See you soon, Chi-Town 💋


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Escape to The Dominican Republic

Ah… so this is long overdue. I won’t attempt to recall every moment, detail and activity from my time in the DR. I left at the end of August and stayed a few days. I landed in Santo Domingo and made my way up to Sosúa. Though I won’t provide play-by-plays, I will reflect on how I felt before and during my trip. My birthday is September 7th. A few months before the 7th, I had several ideas for what I wanted to do with my friends… As time went by, I began to feel overwhelmed. I didn’t want to orchestrate anything. I wanted to remove all stress and expectations from my life even those associated with birthday plans. The odd (and somewhat sad) realization was that most people forget or won’t celebrate you unless there’s something planned. I guess most of us need an invitation to do so. I wasn’t sure how to take that… a part of me took it personal but I’m actively working on my ego.

Back to the trip.

So… the DR wasn’t planned. I was griping to one of my friends about my state of mind and he invited me out (he was already going). I can’t begin to tell you how happy I was! While he was working, I was lounging. All I wanted to do was relax. I didn’t want to think or decided anything. I wanted to escape all of that. It was nice sightseeing, basking in the sun, exploring and trying new food. — which got better each time we went out. Though I’ve become more comfortable with traveling alone, it was nice to have company overseas. I don’t take it lightly that he offered to share his space with me and I’m thankful.

A few days of waking up, rinsing off and jumping in the pool or lounging in the sun with zero obligations was a calm reset I didn’t realize how much I needed. It was overdue. In fact, from now on, when I travel, I want to have less plans. I typically don’t have an itinerary but I do have activities/places I’d like to check out. I just don’t want the pressure to get it all done.

Where’s the fun in that, anyway?


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